Have you talked to your kids about
keeping secrets? That is a conversation that you might want to have
with them in order to protect them from predators.
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Good Secrets
A child needs to know the difference
between a good secret and a bad secret. According to
kidsafefoundation a good secret has a time limit on it. They further
discuss an example of a good secret such as a surprise birthday
party. At some point this is no longer a secret. The example of
a bad secret could be a friend telling you that her brother hits her
and making you promise not to tell your parents.
Kids Rights
When some children are asked to keep a
secret they feel guilty if they tell the secret. Having a discussion
before this happens can put kids somewhat at ease. According to the
National Crime Prevention Council no one has the right to ask a child
to keep a secret from the parent, no one including a relative has the
right to touch a child inappropriately, or if a secret can hurt
someone the parent needs to be told. They further add to let your
kids know that they can tell you anything and you will not blame them
and you will be supportive of them.
More Bad Secrets
Games that break the parents safety
issues, anything that bothers kids by keeping it a secret, presents
or favors such as money given, but asked to keep it a secret is not
good according to kidpower.org. Children do not understand the
importance and that they could be opening themselves up to a predator
that feels if the child will keep one secret then the child can be
targeted for the sick agenda of the predator.
Empowerment
When you have this conversation with
your children, give them the words to say. If they are asked to keep a
secret, your child might respond by saying, "I don't keep secrets
from mommy and daddy." This is suggested by dailystrength. Org.
I like that. Although that had been a discussion that my parent had
with me early in life. I recall when I was 11-years-old, I was offered money and told I
needed to keep it a secret. Even though I really wanted the money, I
politely responded, “If I cannot tell my parent, then I
do not want it.” I was never approached by that individual again,
and I did tell my parent. So this is definitely a conversation you
want to have with your children when they are at least at the age of 4 years depending on
your child’s development. Children are very perceptive now at
early ages. Let's keep them safe.
Photo Caption: Morguefile, by clarita
Source:
A Child who Keeps Secrets... an easy
target for a predator!
Secrets
What Kinds of Secrets are Okay to Keep
One thing you should NEVER to say to a
child
http://www.dailystrength.org/health_blogs/cyndi/article/one-thing-you-should-never-to-say-to-a-child
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Thanks Betty for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. This is another great post. Blessings
Your welcome terr. It is a pleasure.
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