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Thursday, September 18, 2014
Be The Gift for Your Kid
When you are considering a gift for your kid, have you considered that although material gifts are good, your emotional, physical presence, and involvement is even better.
Probably the best gift for children is your involvement with them. I recall hearing someone say recently, “Children know when you love them.” Loving your children can be one of the greatest gifts that you give them.
Material things are great. I believe adults like material things just as much as children do. I recall several adults saying that they wanted to give their children all of the things that they never had. Well that is great, but sometimes can be dangerous, because when children get everything they may not appreciate it. I was watching the Dr. Phil Show today and I observed a little boy that had been neglected. This little boy made the statement more than once, “I wish someone would take me to the park.” He even went as far as to ask the producer would he take him to the park. Now the park may sound like a simple request, but his parent seemingly did not consider it important enough to do it.
I can remember when I was a child going to the carnival, amusement park, and walking a lot. We did not have a car. When I was age 4, I remember going to the theater to a live showing of “Sindbad,” the actor. I will never forget that day. I did not know how famous Sinbad was, but I did know he was really funny and he made me laugh. For me these were some of the best things I could do as a child. I counted it a thrill when I was able to ride the bus. My father was a Porter, so I at an early age would ride on the train with him. That was thrilling for me. Unfortunately there are those parents that parent with their wallet according to empowering parents.com. They further add when a child feels entitled, the child may feel there is a reward for manipulating the parents. Are you a parent that get's in debt to give your kid what he or she wants?
Cooking with your children is a great way to share yourself. I recall living with my aunt for awhile. I observed that she made nearly everything homemade including cinnamon rolls, biscuits, etc. I wanted to surprise her and make pancakes for breakfast. Also, keep in mind that I was quite young. I could not remember how to make it like she did. So I needed to look at the recipe. Unfortunately the recipe called for ¼ of sugar. I thought it meant 4 cups of sugar. The pancakes were a flop. I was so sad and disappointed. I did not want her to see the mess I made. I attempted to try and serve it to our dog. Our dog looked at me and turned her nose up, then went up under the table as if to hide. So there were no pancakes that morning.
Say “No” Sometimes
Are you the parent that is asking your children age 3 and 4 what it is that they want to do? Are you giving your child choices for everything? It makes someone wonder who is really the parent. According to askdrsears.com you want to be careful to balance the no's with the yes. I agree because if you are telling your children no all the time, that is what they will learn. Give them several yes's to balance out the no's.
Although young children love to have control over what they eat, there are some things you do not ask such as, “Are you ready to go to bed?” What 3 or 4-year-old will tell you that they are ready? Instead of asking politely let your child know it is bed time and you are going. Yes you may want to read a book first and give your child a glass of milk, but stand firm on what you have said. Now if you have been allowing your kids to go to sleep when they decide, it may take some practice on your part to let your children know that you are serious. Children need their sleep and allowing them to go to bed when they want just enables them rather than helping them.
Your interaction with your children especially before they are of school age will be most important for them. When they start school they will need to realize everything does not evolve around them. Their teacher may or may not allow some things to occur.
I remember telling my daughter who was 9-years-old at the time, “No.” I even explained to her the reasoning for my decision. She packed her clothes and told me she was leaving. We laugh about this now since she is older. She confided that she had no place to go, so she packed her suitcase and went to the backyard and just stood there. We still do not remember what led me to say "No."
You are the greatest gift for your children, because they will learn from you not so much what you say, but what you do.
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