There is power in words. Yes tell your daughter she is beautiful. Sometimes children may look in the mirror and not see what a parent sees. It is so important as a parent to edify, uplift, and empower your daughter. You can start doing this when she is at an early age even while in the womb.
Have you ever worried that if you tell your girls they are beautiful that they will begin to think they are better than others? Quite the contrary, telling your daughter that she is beautiful builds confidence and self-esteem.
Telling your daughter that she is beautiful is just one of the most positive things that you can do to build confidence in your child. Words are powerful. Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are is in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. Your words can give life to your children.
You need to build your daughter up and help her have good self-esteem. Sometimes other children can be cruel by teasing or by just forming their own little clicks and excluding some children on purpose. Because we live in the internet age there is more harm done on the internet now such as bullying. It is no longer in the classroom and on the playground. Cyberbullying has caused so much harm that it has influenced children to commit suicide. Children tend to value what their peers are telling them, so you need to make sure your daughter hears you say, “You are beautiful.”
Your home should be a safe-haven. Helping your child establish good self-esteem should start in the home. Be honest with your daughter. Besides telling your daughter she is beautiful tell her something about herself that is good and that you have observed in her. For example if Sandra has beautiful eyes, tell her that her eyes are beautiful and that you like the color of them. Every child is unique and different and every child has beauty within.
You don’t want your daughter to turn to gangs or to that pimp that will cause your daughter more harm that you can ever imagine. You don’t want your daughter to go from man to man looking for love because she did not feel loved.
Your daughter may not always feel good about herself. So as a parent you can help her by telling her things you like about her and things that she is good at. For example, Sharon might be good at problem solving. Let her know that. I have seen children solving problems and offering suggestions at a very young age.
I recall watching a program on television where it was mentioned that while growing up, Michael Jackson felt as a young boy performing that everyone was watching his pimples and his nose. That was Michael Jackson's perception at the time, even though he had all of these great fans that loved him dearly. I am sure they did not perceive him that way. My daughter is an example. She was crazy about Michael Jackson and wore this large Michael Jackson Pin. When she joined church one day, she just happen to have worn that pin. The Minister commented, “I hope you love Jesus just as much as you love Michael Jackson.” Everyone laughed.
3. In the womb
You can talk to your daughter that you may be carrying in the womb before she is even born. According to WebMD babies begin to absorb language in the womb during the last 10 weeks of pregnancy. Don’t wait til then to start talking to your baby in the womb. You can tell your daughter everything that you want her to know as you carry her. You can sing to her. In fact, I recall when my daughter was carrying twins my daughter shared that when I was with her and talked to her both babies would start kicking like crazy in her womb. That was when I got the idea to make a tape that she could play to them while she carried them.
Beautiful is a powerful word. Children tend to listen to their peer groups. As a parent you want to build your daughter up to be and feel the best that they she can be. Just think of how many children that have never been told they are beautiful by their parents.
So should you tell your your daughter she is beautiful? Most definitely. It will be music to her ears. You should not just do it once and think that is a cure all. Children need to hear it often. It does carry a lot of weight when they hear it from you. Your words can uplift their spirits and sustain them emotionally for the good.
I recall telling one of my daughters she was beautiful as a child. Her response to me was, “My nose is too big.” I did not realize it, but that was what she saw when she looked in the mirror. Then she would also say, “You are just saying that because you are my parent.” She did not believe what I was telling her. It is important to continue telling your daughter until she can believe it, because there is too much peer pressure and other pressures of the world that will tell her otherwise.
5. Positive Words
You also want to use positive words and phrases. The positives definitely help to build the self-esteem. Some of them are as follows:
a. I love you unconditionally
b. you are awesome
c. you are so good at....
d. you are amazing
e. you are great
Now possibly you are a parent that might have trouble doing and saying this. It is never too late to start. Practice does help. The more you practice the better you become. This becomes a win/win situation, because you feel good knowing that you are encouraging and uplifting your daughter.
You can boost your daughter’s insecurities and increase her self-confidence. Telling her she is beautiful reaffirms to her that she is special and that there is no other like her.
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