Do You Know How Domestic Violence Affects Families?

Unfortunately Domestic Violence affects the entire family. When a partner beats up their spouse, it not only hurts the spouse, but also hurts all family members. Remember that victim has a mother, father, sister, brother, and possibly children.

PHYSICAL ABUSE

1. False Promises

You need to know that there is a pattern to a controlling and violent person. After they have done their damage they will appear so remorseful to you. They will promise that this will never happen again. They will use excuses that they are under so much pressure. They will even go as far as to say, “You made me do this to you.” You the abused one might say, “But he is a good man, he cooks dinner and he does this, or does that.” Ask yourself, “Does a good man hit a woman.?"  Or does a good woman hit a man?" You need to not make excuses for him. or her.

2. Family and Friends

This is the time to take the help of family and friends. This is the time to listen to your family and friends.  Because your family cares about you, they want nothing but the best for you. 

3. Fear

Unfortunately your children may learn that it is okay to make their spouse fearful and nervous by using emotional verbiage to break down that spirit. Never forget your children learn from an abusive relationship. Your children are watching you. This fear is felt by not only by your immediate family, but by your aunts, uncles, father, mother, cousins, and grandparents. They all feel your pain and hate to see you in such a vulnerable position. You deserved to be happy. Life is too short. Domestic Violence robs you of that happiness. It also robs your family, because they want you to be happy.   Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. Why not choose to be happy in a healthy relationship.

4.  Happiness

Your children learn that It is difficult o be happy because of the worry that one spouse might kill the other. Your toddler learns it is difficult to conceive a life with one parent, because the spouse killed the other spouse. I grew up in a family fearful that I might loose one of my parents to domestic violence. The fear is very real and traumatic. Your children may eventually hate the spouse that continually hurts you emotionally and physically.

NOTE: 

Did you know that there are 5 different types of domestic violence according to jerrybeurkens.com.?

They include physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, and financial abuse.

Always remember if you are in immediate danger call 911. Also, know that there is a 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline. For guidance and support at 1-800-799-7233.

Statistics

You do not want to become a statistic. Your family definitely does not want this either. 

Did you know that almost 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States and this equates to more than 10 million women and men during one year? Also,1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year; 90%of these children are eyewitnesses to the violence.

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