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Monday, February 11, 2013

How Your Toddler Learns From An Abusive Relationship

1. Hurting

Unfortunately your toddler learns that it is okay to hurt your spouse emotionally and physically. I say spouse because whether it is male or female doing the abuse, it is still unhealthy. As I one day watched a program on Oprah. Several children had been victims of incest from their biological father. For some time the one daughter thought this was the way that families lived, even though she did not like it. I grew up in a home where there were alcoholics. For a long time I believed when you drank, you physically fought. So I believed for a long time that anyone that drank alcohol would fight. My beliefs about that had been distorted.

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2. Fear

Unfortunately your toddler is learning that it is okay to make their spouse fearful and nervous by using emotional verbage to break down the other’s spirit. Never forget your toddler learns from an abusive relationship.


3. Emotional Abuse


Unfortunately your toddler learns that it is okay to call your spouse rude names or to curse your spouse. Your toddler learns the name-calling is a way of life in your family. Your toddler learns that abuse is a way of life. Your toddler may not realize that other families are not like this. Your toddler does not realize that this is damaging the other person. Your toddler is learning to imitate this type of behavior, because that is what your toddler is seeing constantly.

 



4. Physical Fighting

Unfortunately your toddler learns that instead of using his head to think of a solution to a situation, to use his fists.


5. Trust

Your toddler learns it is not easy to trust others when he sees you beating and demeaning your spouse.


6. Happiness


Your toddler learns that It is difficult to be happy because of worry that one spouse might kill the other. Your toddler learns it is difficult to conceive a life with one parent, because the spouse killed the other spouse. I grew up in a family fearful that I might loose one of my parents to domestic violence.




Not all toddlers grow up to become abusers. There are those that vow to get help. There are those that vow they will never be like their abusive parents. There are those that learn before it is too late that abusive relationships are just not healthy. Do you know of a toddler in an abusive situation? Have you been in an abusive relationship?

More From This Author on this sitemap listed under Domestic Violence:

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How To Know How an Abusive and/or Controlling Relationship Affects Toddlers Part 2

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