Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Are You Raising a Monster?
New King James Bible
1. Temper Tantrums & Training.
Proverbs 22:6- Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. In an attempt to control you and also to show their dissatisfaction, children may throw temper tantrums. Unless they are corrected, they will continue to do so. Children need to know that this is not acceptable behavior and that there are consequences for such behavior. Let them know there are other ways to voice their displeasures or disagreements. Let them know that just because they disagree, it does not always mean they are going to get their way and that their way is the only way. Let them know that there may be possible alternatives. Training is of utmost important. Children are going to “try you.” They are going to test and see “how much they can do” before you restrict them or say something to them regarding their behavior. This is where training comes in. Your actions and how you deal with his/her behavior is a determining factor in the training that your child will receive.
2. Too much Too Soon
1st John 2:16 - The lust of the flesh, eyes, and the pride of life. While training your child keep in mind not to give your child too much too soon. Sometimes when a child is given too many material things, the child will not appreciate it. Just because your child may ask you for it, does not mean that you have to give it to him/her. Sometimes that child might appreciate it more when they have to work for it. Your child might appreciate it more when, he/she has a vested interest in purchasing or getting something that he or she wants. Think about it. Are you raising a monster?
3. Purchases Luke 22:15- One’s life should not consist of the abundance of possessions. Each time you make a visit to the store are you purchasing your child a toy or a game? You need to be mindful of doing that. Sometimes, children will eventually expect that and even get seriously upset if they are not receiving a toy or a game each time you visit. It is a waste for your child to have 20 -30 games or more. It is a waste to have so many games that they never get a chance to play even half of them. It is a waste for your child to have 40 or 50 dolls.
4. Time vs. Material
Ecclesiastes 3:1- There is a time and season for everything. Take the time to give your child quality time as opposed to many material things. This may be the time and season for you to do this. Remember it is not always how much time that you spend with your child, but the quality of that time. The quality can make all the difference in the world. Have you taken time to just listen to your child today? Have you taken time to enjoy your child today?
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