How To Influence Your Toddler By Being Positive

Have you ever talked to someone and everything that came out of their mouth was negative? The body mind and spirit are affected by our attitudes. By choosing to be positive you can manifest a life of abundance. You can determine whether you want to be a positive person or a negative one. As for me, I choose the positive person.


1.Laughter and Your Health

Your toddler watches everything you do and say. How many times have you heard someone tell a child, “Do as I say, not as I do?” Toddlers are very smart. Your toddler watches how you treat others. You have a great influence on your toddler. Being negative most of the time can effect your health. Over periods of time negativity can affect your heart, immune system, digestive system, and other parts of the body. Try laughing. Laugh with your toddler and allow your toddler to see you laughing with others. Laughing triggers the release of endorphins which encourages an overall sense of well-being.
So it is important to choose your actions wisely.




Parents and child laughing together





2. Practice- Practice-Practice.

You might feel that you are a negative person and you cannot change. That is an untrue statement. You can change if you want to change. I love President Obama’s phrase, “Yes I Can.” Yes you can. Stay focused. Think before you speak. Just because you think a negative thought, it does not mean that you need to speak it. So you start attempting to be positive and you still make negative statements. Don’t beat yourself up because of this. In the beginning it might feel awkward using positive statements, but it will get better. Practice with your toddler. Remember too many negative statements to your toddler can easily wound his/her spirit. Although he/she may appear okay outwardly, inside there may be a lot of scars. Do you have a wounded spirit, because someone has repeatedly spoke negatives to you? You can change that. Look in your mirror and tell yourself, “I love you.” Can you think of any other positive affirmations that you want to tell yourself?



Young boy thinking







3. Acknowledgment.


Your toddler will do many positive things in a day. Look for the positive things and speak positive words such as, “very good ” “great idea” “you are so smart.” This will affect your toddler because eventually it will become a reality. Your toddler will believe, “I am smart, I did have a great idea.” Your toddler believes what you tell him/her. So why not tell your toddler good things?

4. Nonverbal Communication.


Nonverbal communication is just as important as verbal communication. Ask yourself these questions are you frowning most of the time? Do you smile and appear friendly to others? Do you smile at your toddler? Have you looked in the mirror lately? Has anyone ever told you. “You look like your mad at the world?” You can decide which nonverbal communication that you will use with your toddler and with others. The video below by Allan Bonner gives a few tips regarding the power of nonverbal communication.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cS1LI_ut3fs

Resources: http://womantribune.com/negativity

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How To Change Your Toddler’s Behavior

There may be a certain behavior that is unacceptable with your toddler. In order to change behavior there must me great emphasis on the good behaviors. Eventually the good behaviors become more prominent than the bad behaviors. Whatever you focus most on becomes a reality.


1. Recognition.

A parenting tip you should never forget is that toddlers want attention. Many have used bad behavior, because that is what worked. You must recognize the good behaviors. Focus more on the good behaviors and you will see more of it.



Mother and grandmother clapping hands to give toddler recognition





2. Acknowledgement.

You must start acknowledging any type of good behavior that your toddler does regardless to how small it may seem. Acknowledging can be done with a smile of approval, or even a clapping of your hands.

3.Praise.

Your toddler will love it when you give him/her praise. The more you praise your toddler, the more that he or she will want to please you. Remember no one wants to hear “no no” all the time. Possibly some parents have been negative towards their toddler. You can change.





Mother gesturing that was a good job






Below is a list of some of the positive phrases that you can start using with your toddler:

1. Great idea
2. Good job
3. Your are so smart.
4. That is good.
5. I am so proud of you.
6. You are a great helper
7. You help me so much
8. Yes you can
9. I am so thankful for you
10 You are so thoughtful and considerate



Let your toddler know when he or she has a great idea






4. Reward.

No rewards are not necessary all of the time, but from time to time rewards can help. Now you need to find out which type of reward your toddler would like. You may like one thing, but that might not be considered a reward to your toddler. A few suggestions might me to take your toddler skating, to the park, buy him/her an ice cream cone, go to a carnival, buy him/her something nice. You will eventually know the things that your toddler likes and you can reward him/her with these things.



Toddlers eating ice cream cones





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