Anointedtoday.blogspot.com: Who is a Daddy?

A Daddy is very important to the family, just as the mother is. Many young girls are looking at their father to discover the type of man they want to marry.

My Daddy

The Daddy is important to the daughter and to the son. How many times have you heard a young man say, “My daddy was not there for me, or I did not know who my daddy was.” Some may call their daddy dad, pops, or father. Then others may have had a daddy but had no relationship with their daddy.

I am grateful for the memories we have shared and the lessons he has taught me. A father’s love is a gift that lasts a lifetime.

1. Employer/Pastor

I was only 14 years old when I first started working as secretary at my church. I have talked about this often. Besides the fact that my pastor taught me about bookkeeping and paying bills in a timely-fashion, I realized this carried over into my adult life. These were life lessons. He would emphasize, “Always pay your bills on time.” This was a good thing. It was also mandatory for all those that held paying positions of the church to tithe from their earnings received from the church. So, I learned to always tithe from my earnings.

I recall my first bulletin was a disaster. Every word was misspelled just about including my employer's name. I felt so bad. I wanted to hide, but there was no hiding place. He did not realize when he hired me, I could not type and I did not tell him, because I really wanted the job. He was very mad at me and did yell at me stating, “If you were working for someone else, you would be fired for this." “I thought to myself, “He is right.” I assured him, “I am taking typing this semester.” I do not think that was too reassuring to him at that time. Also, I spoke about how softly spoken my biological daddy was. Well, my pastor was the total opposite. He was a yeller at times, but I knew under it all he always wanted the best for me and all his children. He always wanted things done the right way.

2. Root Problems

Now it does not stop there. I must give credit to my present pastor. One day during Sunday School, he asked us to write a letter to 8 people that had influenced us for the good. He was one of the people that I wrote a letter to. My letter to him explained how he helped me through Bible Study.

Before I joined my present church I came to Bible Study for about a year. One thing that really helped me was when pastor taught about getting to the root of problems. I had many problems when I came to my present church. We all know we may have some type of habit, but he even elaborated about habits. I always thought you would get rid of a habit, but I learned you replace bad habits with healthy habits. He also taught me about cleaning up the inside of yourself with the word of God, because even though our bodies may change physically, we may renew our spirit daily.

So, there are father figures in the workplace, in the ministry, and many other places. Again, thank you to the fathers. Can you think of someone that is not your biological father but has served as a father figure for you.

3. Moral Compass

I recall my husband, who is a Viet Nam Veteran sharing with me that he was a Points Man in the army. He explained the Points Man would go ahead of his battalion to scout out any enemies or disasters that may be ahead of them. Someone has said that the father is like a Points Man or a moral compass for his family. He is always looking out for his family's well-being. He is a protector or a fixer. God has designed him that way. I recall one Father's Day my Pastor asked several men to come before the congregation and share about their fathers. Unfortunately, there was one that stated he honestly did not have any fond memories of his father, only negative ones. That was so sad to hear.

4. Importance

According to Dr. Gail Gross, Huffingtonpost.com girls tend to look for men that have characters like their fathers and boys tend to emulate their fathers. I have seen those that have said, “I am nothing like my father or I do not want to be like that man.” Though there may be some characteristics where they are just like their father whether they like it or not. I recall that we did not have a car when I lived with my father and grandmother, but I remember catching the bus with him to go to the Carnival. I loved going to the carnival. My father worked as a Porter at the train station in Gary, Indiana. I always loved to ride the train; it had a distinct smell that I really cannot describe.

5. Church

Although my father nor my grandmother attended church, I discovered that my neighbors went to church every Sunday. My father allowed me to go with them. I wanted to know about God and what church was about. I started praying and asking God for what I wanted at a very young age. My father was kind and soft-spoken, I had never heard him raise his voice, even when my mother would fuss at him often. Even when he punished me with a small tap on my legs, he always sat me down and explained why beforehand. He always let me know there was a consequence for my action.

6. Mentor

A Daddy may be a mentor or not necessarily a biological father. While a mother is important, it is equally important for the father to spend time with his daughters and his sons. I recall a young man telling me how much he respected his father and made it a point to not curse in front of his father out of respect. He pointed out that he was from a large family and that his father took time with him and his brothers to take them fishing and teach them to hunt. He proudly said that because of that he was an expert shooter.

Think about your father. Can you find any pleasant memories about him?

Happy Father's Day to Fathers and to the single mothers that have been father and mother to their children.

Source:

The Important Role of Dad, Dr. Gail Gross

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