Tuesday, March 23, 2010
How To Help Your Child Cope With Your Divorce
Unhappy girl in a custody battle
1. Your Child’s Feelings
Your child may or may not accept your divorce. If your child doesn’t accept it, consider that your child may feel his/her life is out of control. Your child may feel you are going to divorce him or her if there is a problem. Your child may not understand why you are divorcing even when you try to explain it to them. Your child may feel he/she is the reason for your divorce.
Below is a video showing how children can get caught in the middle of divorce.
Hopefully you and your spouse can be civil and sit down and talk to your child. Let your child know that you both love her/him. If there is joint custody, explain to your child how that will work. If necessary take your child for counseling. A third party intervention may be helpful.
I cannot stress enough the importance of keeping the lines of communication open. If you are in a nasty custody battle, remember to consider your child’s best interest. Remember that your child loves both of you and may be torn between the two of you. This is something that no child should have to experience.
4. Divorce Support
Support groups can be helpful, because children of divorce, may have difficulty accepting the divorce. They may want to blame you or your spouse.
Support groups can be helpful, because children of Divorce, may have difficulty accepting the divorce. They may want to blame you or your spouse.
Remember divorce may not always be the ultimate solution.
Consider the impact of the divorce on you and the entire family.
Accept responsibility for your actions.
What are your thoughts about divorce?