Wednesday, February 10, 2010
How to Be a Good Influence On Your Child
Father and son at the supermarket checkout
1. In the Store.
Have you ever gone to the store and receive too much change back? Did your child witness this? Did you promptly give the cashier the overpayment, or did you keep it and say to yourself, “She should learn how to count.” You knew keeping the money was wrong, but you did it anyway, knowing the cashier’s register would come up short at the end of the day.
Have you ever cursed to yourself aloud? Have you cursed someone else in front of your child? This is a bad influence on your child. I am guilty of this. I used to have a foul mouth. In fact, it was more like diarrhea of the mouth. One day my adolescent daughter had a confrontation while outside with one of her friends. The words I heard come out of her mouth was an eye opener for me. I wanted to get mad, but realized she was doing what she had heard me do.
Has your child witnessed you telling a lie to someone? That is a no-no. How can you expect your child not to lie, when you do it? That old saying, “do as I say, not as I do” does not work with children.
Has your child witnessed you verbally or physically fighting with your spouse or someone else? This definitely sends the wrong message to your child. I went up to the preschool one day and security ran out the door stating, “Two parents are in the parking lot fighting.” What type of message does this send the preschoolers who are just starting in the school system?
Father and mother fighting as children listen
Think about the above incidents and how they could have been handled. What would you have done differently?
Choose your battles carefully
Display the type of behavior that you want your child to emulate.
Know that you have the power to influence your child for the good.
Please feel free to comment in the comment area below. What are your thoughts on this?