Did
you know that there are all types of influencers? The best influence
is the top influence that you have on your children. That can be long
lasting.
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Whether
you realize it or not you may be the top influencer on your
children. Your children may watch you and purpose that they want to
be or not be like you. You are special. Remember your children are
watching you.
1.
Texting while driving
There
is a law now that you may not text and drive. How many adults adhere
to that law? Are you guilty of texting and driving? When your
children are in the car with you they are definitely watching and
learning what you are doing? Why
not be a good example and pull off the road when you need to text or
answer a cellphone call? Remember there was a time when cellphones
did not exist. What did you do then?
2. Cursing
Have
you ever cursed to yourself aloud? Have you cursed someone else in
front of your child? This is a bad influence on your child. I am
guilty of this. I used to have a foul mouth. In fact, it was more
like diarrhea of the mouth. One day my adolescent daughter had a
confrontation while outside with one of her friends. The words I
heard come out of her mouth was an eye opener for me. I wanted to get
mad, but realized she was doing what she had heard me do. Cursing
can become a habit. You can change and make it your lifestyle to
replace those curse words. Just be intentional that you are going
to stop cursing. Like anything else it may take more time with you
than with others to transform. As I watched the Steve Harvey show,
this young girl's wish was for Steve Harvey to stop cursing. This
young girl was watching Steve.
Take
time to observe. I recall in a grocery store every word out of this
toddler's mouth was foul. She sat in the shopping cart spewing out
all kinds of profanity. and the mother looked so embarrassed.
3.
In the Store
Have
you ever gone to the store and receive too much change back? Did your
child witness this? Did you promptly give the cashier the over
payment, or did you keep it and say to yourself, “She should learn
how to count.” You knew keeping the money was wrong, but you did it
anyway, knowing the cashier’s register would come up short at the
end of the day.
4.
Gratitude
Do
you practice gratitude? Be sure that your children see you
practicing gratitude. Circumstances may get very bad, but if you
look hard enough you can find something that you are thankful for.
How many things do you take for granted? I have a grandson that
amazes me. He shows gratitude for the smallest of things and he is
quite humble. The humility that he shows is unbelievable.
5.
Empathy
Putting
yourself in someone else circumstance. There may be times you have
said, “I do not see how she could do that?” Well maybe if you
just imagine or view yourself in that same circumstance you could see
it, because in reality we never really know what we might or might
not do.
6.
Kindness
Showing
kindness is something that is contagious. Your actions, your words,
or your encouragement can show kindness to others. Sometimes just a
smile or a hug, especially when you do not know what to say.
7.
Thankfulness
Are
you thankful? Do you tell others thank you? I
remember a woman holding the door open for my husband who is a
Veteran. My husband told her, “Thank You.” She said, “No,
thank you for your service.” Thanking others let’s them know
that you appreciate them. There should never be a shortage of “thank
you's.”
8.
Caring
Children
know when you care about them. That is something that you cannot
fake. Everyone wants to know that someone cares about them. It
does not take a lot to show someone that you care for them. Your
actions tell it all. Sometimes just listening to others let’s them
know that you care enough to take the time to listen. How
many teachers do you know that go beyond what is necessary in the
classroom, because they care for the children. They care and want
their children to be successful in life. I recall a young lady that
received a promotion. She would be training the person that would
take over her present job. She was very concerned that she pick the right fit for the job, because she wanted the children to
continue to thrive and learn. Parents your children know whether
you care for them. It shows in your actions.
Tips:
Choose
your battles carefully
Display
the type of behavior that you want your child to emulate.
Know
that you have the power to influence your child for the good.
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