Does your child always blame others for
problems rather than taking responsibility. Have you wondered why
your child does this? Does blaming others really solve the problem?
When you take a look at why children
are always blaming others, you may see a few great revelations.
Maybe they feel it is easier to blame someone else. Lets look at
some of the reasons why children may blame others.
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Approval
Scholastic.com talks about a schoolroom
situation where a child is blaming someone else for using the big
scissors even though the teacher saw the student pick the scissors up
to use. It is suggested that possibly this child is yearning for
approval and the fear of disapproval is the reasoning for blaming others.
Victim
Do your children see themselves as the
victim? This is another reason that children may blame others
according to empowering parents.com.
Accountability
According to Compartment, you can hold
children accountable for their actions by making honesty pay. How
can you do that? You can be calm, approachable, and more
importantly let children know that everyone makes mistakes. They
further add not to forget to give children praise for owning up to
their actions.
Contributing
When children blame do you become
highly upset and raise your voice when confronting them?
What could children do differently
instead of blaming? According to Huffington.com when asking children what they could do differently, you
allow your children to grow from this situation and even help them
feel empowered. Let's face it feeling empowered is an awesome
feeling.
Photo Credit:
Mini and Eunice.Com
Source:
The Child Who Always Blames Others,
Polly Greenberg
Child Outbursts: Why Kids Blame, MakeExcuses and Fight When You Challenge Their Behavior, James Lehman,
MSW
Stop Blaming Other People and Pick Up aMirror, Collette Gee
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13 comments:
I know several adults too.
Good stuff Betty. And yes, we all know adults who do that. It's always everyone else's fault.
Thanks for sharing this with us at Pin-Worthy Wednesday!
Thanks for stopping by here Honeycomb.
Thanks Mary. I was thinking the exact same thing. Thanks for taking time to stop by.
Thank you for sharing this important post at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings
Your welcome Terri.
I have a child much like you described! Thank you for giving me some insight and for sharing at Waiting on...Wednesday!
Holly
www.iwillservewhileiwait.blogspot.com
This is such a great and helpful post. I will definitely keep it in mind next time my kid plays the blame game. Also, I'll be using it on myself as well. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks celi. Glad it was helpful.
Your welcome holly.
Hi Betty,
Your posts are so powerful and helpful! Thank you for sharing your valuable insights on why children blame. I have noticed this behavior in my nephew with us on the Healthy Happy Green and Natural Party Blog Hop. I'm pinning and sharing.
Thanks Deborah. I have observed this behavior in certain adults as well.
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