Have you ever worried that if you tell
your girls they are beautiful and your boys they are handsome that
they will begin to think they are better than others? Quite the
contrary, telling your children they are beautiful builds their
self-esteem.
Telling your children that they are
beautiful is just one of the most positive things that you can do to
build confidence in your children. Words are powerful. Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are is in
the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
Your words can give life to your children.
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Self-Esteem
You need to build your children up and
help them have good self-esteem. Sometimes other children can be cruel by
teasing or by just forming their own little clicks and excluding some
children on purpose. Your home should be a safe-haven. Helping your
child establish good self-esteem should start in the home. Be honest
with your child. Besides telling your children they are beautiful
tell them something about themselves that is good and that you have
observed in them. For example if Sandra has beautiful eyes tell her
that her eyes are beautiful and that you like the color of them.
Every child is unique and different and every child has beauty
within. Boys can be told that they are handsome and good-looking.
Feelings
Children may not always feel good about
themselves. So as a parent you can help them by telling them things
you like about them that they are good at. For example, John might
be good at problem solving. Let him know that. I have seen children
solving problems and offering suggestions at a very young age. I
believe I mentioned before while on a school field trip with First
graders, most parents had came prepared with mosquito repellant, but
none were prepared for several bees. When we ate lunch outside at
the picnic table this one particular bee kept flying around us and
attempting to land on the food. As a bee landed on the table, this
amazing first grader took a cup and put it over the bee. This
contained the bee while we ate without any problems. I commended him
for such a great idea. The good thing about it was that his idea did
work beautifully.
I recall watching a program on
television where it was mentioned that while growing up, Michael
Jackson felt as a young boy performing that everyone was watching his
pimples and his nose. That was Michael Jackson's perception at the
time, even though he had all of these great fans that loved him
dearly. I am sure they did not perceive him that way. My daughter
is an example. She was crazy about Michael Jackson and wore this
large Michael Jackson Pin. When she joined church one day, she just
happen to have worn that pin. The Minister commented, “I hope you
love Jesus just as much as you love Michael Jackson.” Everyone
laughed.
Words
Beautiful is a powerful word. Children
tend to listen to their peer groups. As a parent you want to build
your children up to be and feel the best that they can be. Just
think of how many children that have never been told they are
beautiful by their parents.
So should you tell your children they
are beautiful? Most definitely. It will be music to their ears.
You should not just do it once and think that is a cure all.
Children need to hear it often. It does carry a lot of weight when
they hear it from you. Your words can uplift their
spirits and sustain them emotionally for the good.
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Photo Credit: Charmaineswart, Morguefile.com
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1 comment:
When our children were small we used to say who's the bestest boy/girl in the world from as soon as they could lift their arms and we would show them to lift their arms and say me. They did not grow up thinking they were the best person in the world or that they were better than others but they grew up knowing we thought they were great and worth the effort of teaching them well. I'm beside you this week at The Blessing Counters Link up
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