Although parenting does not come with a
manual, sometimes as parents you may be fearful that your children
will make the same mistake that you did.
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You don't have to tell your children
every detail. Maybe you feel that you do not have good parenting skills,
but it may be a good idea to share some of your mistakes with your
children.
1. Image
What type of image are you portraying?
Are your children seeing a perfect mom who has never made any
mistakes while growing up? If so, they may be thinking that you
don't understand them. Unfortunately, they do not know that you have
“been there and done that.”
2. Vulnerability
Sharing your mistakes with your children
shows your vulnerability and that you are human. It let's them know
you are not perfect.
3. Everyone Makes Mistakes
Let your children know that everyone
makes mistake. Even with all of our perfection, expertise, and
training, there is no perfect one but Jesus.
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4. Positive Parents
According to Rebecca at Positive
Strategies for better Behaved Kids, when our needs to be seen, heard,
understood, loved, and connected are met, we all do better. She
further talks about speaking their language with physical touch,
words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service.
Those that are are already doing this are well ahead in this
scenario. For those that have not been doing this, it is not too late
too start.
5. Blaming Yourself
In the article "Parenting: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly," I emphasize the importance of
not beating yourself up after you have changed your baby, fed your
baby, and your baby is still crying; finally you take your baby to the
doctor to find out the baby has an ear infection. If you are a first
time parent, you would not have had an idea the baby had an ear
infection, because parenting is trial and error. The good thing is
that your baby received medical attention in time. I also recall
another instance when a teacher was upset with herself because it was
discovered her child had a learning disability. She felt as a
teacher she should have saw this. I explained to her, “You are and
excellent teacher, but sometimes we are to close to the problem that
we have blinders on.” The important thing is that it was
discovered and the issue addressed. Remember parenting is a learning experience. So relax, learn, and have fun while doing it.
Source:
Positive Strategies for Better Behaved
Kids, Rebecca
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