How
much is too much? Because of the negativity that is in the world, it
is very enlightening to give your child lots of praise. It is not
enough to praise your children once a week, they need daily
reminders.
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Edification
Do
you edity and build up your children or do you tear them down. I
recall talking to a mother and praising her child. Her response to
me was to bring up the negative things about her child, rather than
saying, “Thank You.” She could have just agreed with me and
possibly added a few more positive phrases.
Talk
to Self
Many
times children as well as adults may see and tell themselves negative
things as oppose to the positive things. They need to be reminded of
encouraging things about themselves. You want your children to
repeat positive things to themselves.
What
Praise Does
Did
you know that praise will edifty (build up) your children and also
help your children to feel good about themselves. According to Gwen
Dewar,Ph.D. at Parentingscience.com it is important to be sincere when praising kids, because they may feel that you are
feeling sorry for them. Possibly you have not been praising your
children, because you never received praise as a child. Well you know
what? It is never too late to start doing so. Praise from a
parent to a child is so important, because your child really wants
your approval. That parent child bond can be so important.
Practice
Makes Perfect
If
you have not been dong so, you can start now my praising your child
for the littlest thing such as possibly you could not find your keys
and your child finds them for you. Your response might be, “ Thank
you so much, that was an awesome job, you are so helpful, or you
saved me so much time.”
Powerful
Praise Phrases and words
Know
that your words are powerful: Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in
the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit
thereof.
1.
Awesome
2.
Very good
3.
good catch
4.
you are so helpful
5.
I enjoy our time together
6.
you are very good at that
7,
keep up the good work
8.
that is great
9.
you are wonderful
10.way
to go
Now
these are just a few phrases that come to my mind. What others can
you think of?
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Source:
The effects of Praise, Gwen Dewar,Ph.D.
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8 comments:
Praise is really important for motivation :-) Thanks for this post and it is nice to meet you.
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Thanks Chocolate.
You're so very right Betty, words are so powerful. Our children need to hear sincere words of love and praise... meaningful exchanges that make them feel valued and build them up!
Thanks for sharing.
Wishing you a lovely evening.
xoxo
Thanks Jennifer.
Yes, words are powerful. My children are all grown now, but they still need praise at times. Now I have grandchildren so I can praise them, too! Children are such sensitive creatures and we need to be careful how we speak to them. Thanks for this great post! I'm visiting from Family, Friendship and Faith!
Thank You Gayl.
Words are SO very powerful! Thank you for the sharing this reminder over at Coffee and Conversation!!
I think it's important to remember also that we shouldn't give shallow praise to our kids, either. I read somewhere to focus on praising them for their efforts and not necessarily the results, and also to praise them for things they can change, rather then how they are (for example, don't keep saying "You're so pretty!", but rather "You did such a good job putting that outfit together!" or "Looks like you worked really hard on that hairstyle this morning - good for you!"
We want to build them up, but not inflate their egos!!
I agree Pat. We should not give our children shallow praise. Stop for stopping by Anointedtoday.blogspot.com
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