How To Know Your Child’s Spiritual Gift

Children are gifts from God. You are to nurture and guide them. Many times parents already have in mind what they want their toddlers to become when they grow up. Parents have already picked their toddler’s profession. Even though you might want your toddler to become one thing, your toddler’s spiritual gift may not align with what you want. The spiritual gifts are mercy, teaching, prophet, evangelist, giving, administration, service, and exhorter.



May be you want your child to be a nurse.






1. Know that God has given every toddler a spiritual gift. A gift that is a dominant quality that he/she will use with little effort. It is called a gift because God gave it to the toddler, the toddler did not and does not get to pick what gift he or she may want from a menu. This particular gift will help that toddler to do work that is beyond all expectations as he or she grows into becoming an adult. This particular gift will come naturally. As parents you are to help develop, guide, and help your toddler realize his/her spiritual gift as he grows and matures into a young man or woman. Observe your toddler.

2. Encourage your toddler as he or she grows to participate in different ministries in the church to see how his/her spiritual gift will work. You will probably already have a good idea about your toddler. Possibly your child will give their last in order to help someone else.



Child putting his only dollar in the collection plate






3. For example, observe whether your toddler feels compassion for others. Does he want to comfort others that might be hurting? He might have the gift of mercy. Or possibly you may observe that your toddler has the gift of teaching. When playing with siblings or others does he/she want to instruct rather than follow? Does your toddler just automatically take that role when in a situation with other toddlers playing.



Sister comforting her brother






4. Does your toddler love to organize and take the lead when playing with other toddlers? It is possible he has the gift of administration. Or is your toddler always trying to lead his/her friends to Jesus Christ? Your child’s gift could be an Evangelist. Possibly your child is always encouraging others and seems to enjoy seeing his/her other friends do well. He/she might be an exhorter.



Sister instructing her brother






5. Is your child very discerning, opinionated, dominant, and out spoken? It is possible his/her gift is that of prophecy. Or possibly your child loves to volunteer, is more of a follower, tries to meet others needs, and has a difficult time saying no. This child’s gift might be that of service.

Remember every child is special and unique and that regardless to how your child came into this world. That child is no mistake. That child has a purpose.


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How to Know How an Abusive and/or Controlling Relationships Affects Toddlers Part 2

Parents fighting in front of their children.



Abuse whether emotional or physical still hurts. Love does not hurt. Today I am giving you a few more of the tips of how abusive and/or controlling relationships affects toddlers.

1.Their Fault.

Toddlers somehow begin to think that it is their fault that the abuser is attacking the other parent. Toddlers do not have the full capacity to understand that they have done nothing wrong. Toddlers are innocent, but do not know that they are.

2. Fix It.

Toddlers believe that they can fix it. They believe that if they are around and can entertain the parents that will solve the problems. Toddlers believe they can possibly do things to gain the parents attention so that there will be no fights or altercations. For example, a toddler may attempt to sing, dance, or just act silly if it will gain the attention of the parents and possibly put the abuser in a better mood.

3. Worry.

Then there are the toddlers that will worry most of the time. These toddlers do not think about distracting the abuser. These toddlers worries when will be the next altercation. Sometimes they worry so much they have trouble sleeping. They worry that if something terrible happens they have no where to go and no where to turn to. Toddlers are just to young to have to worry about something like that, because the home is suppose to be a safe haven.

4. Nervousness and fearful.

Other toddlers become nervous and fearful of just about everything. Because they are fearful of loosing a parent because of abuse, they really cannot concentrate on anything else. They may resort to crying most of the time or even wetting the bed. This fear somewhat immobilizes them so that they may not be as outgoing as they could be. Fear can stop you right in your tracks. This emotion of fear is very real to toddlers.


Warning: Again I say, If you are in an abusive and/or controlling relationship, get out for the sake of your toddler.

Think about this life that you created, take responsibility for that life, and nurture and raise your child in love.